Use your time wisely to overcome loneliness.
I have to confess to not being a newlywed, married for 35 years, but at times lately I have had some of those first-married insecurities. You see, over the first 32 or so years that Penny and I have spent together, we did most of our ministry together. We did children’s work, leading a Sunday-morning class together for about eight years and partnering on VBS stuff more times than I can count. Even when we weren’t teaching VBS together, we were part of the same big project, going to the church at the same time, and so forth.
But then Penny got promoted to big people. She moved to a women’s Bible Study class and before long was teaching and then directing. In a short span, she’s gone from thinking she could never lead an adult class to being really good at it. Suddenly, I find myself kind of lonely on Sunday mornings and at other times.
But here’s the cool thing. If I were to sit around and mope about her not working with me any more or the fact that I sometimes have to wait for her while she’s chatting with eager members of the class, I’d be pretty miserable. But when I’m working in Kid City or doing some other worthwhile activity, it’s really no big thing. I’m doing what I’m supposed to do; she’s doing what she’s supposed to do. And when we get together, we have good things to talk about.
In any of its forms, loneliness is a genuine feeling that I won’t minimize, but when we’re seeking first the kingdom of God, we just don’t have much time to experience that feeling.
- When do you feel alone, abandoned, or undervalued?
- What has God called you to do to serve Him and to fill your time?
- Ask God to match any feelings of loneliness with worthwhile activities.